Give It All You've Got
I remember when my daughter, Grace, was four. We'd have the what-do-you-want-to-be-when-you-grow-up conversation, and her answer was always the same: "I want to be a waitress."
This was her answer for two (if not three) years. It was a long two (or three) years for this mama.
While I prayed that her career aspirations would surpass this particular occupation at some point, I also realized that 4-year-olds don't have any comprehension of what's a "good" job or a not-so-good job. They only know what sounds fun. And there is most definitely value in that.
So while dreams of carrying a tray covered with spaghetti and sundaes were her constant companion, I simply gave her this advice...
I Found My Unicorn
Let's talk about unicorns for a moment, shall we?
Here's the thing about unicorns: some people believe in them; (many) others don't.
Those who do not believe often don't based on the simple fact that they've never seen a real, live unicorn.
Those who do believe often do so---not because they have seen one---because they believe merely in the possibility.
Belief in possibility changes everything.
You know how I love analogies. And today I've got two of them to weave together, so bear with me.
Whether we're talking about learning how to dance in the rain instead of waiting for the storm to pass, or learning to surf as a result of realizing you're unable to stop the waves, the first analogy is fairly clear (I hope).
In anticipation of traveling to Ethiopia to meet our daughter, I read a phenomenal book titled, There is No Me Without You.
"How on earth," I asked my mom one day, "am I going to be able to go there and leave behind all of the other kids who need a forever family?"
A few weeks later, a package arrived in the mail from my mom. It was a sterling silver starfish charm, along with the following story:
Is Passion Enough?
This past weekend I watched a fantastic LiveStream hosted by Suzanne Evans and Larry Winget. They are dynamic (and hilarious) speakers, and about 10 minutes in they began talking about their belief that PASSION isn't really what you want to be going for.
Larry used the following analogy:
"If you were about to have a quadruple bypass, and you had two surgeons to choose from---one who was passionate about cutting people open and another who was the very best at cutting people open---which would you choose?"
The assumption is that you'd choose the one who was the very best over the one who was simply passionate about scalpels and blood, I suppose.
But there's a component I think they missed.
Girl Boss: Living the Dream
A friend of mine asked how I was during a phone call yesterday.
"Living the dream!" I answered, with a good bit of both truth and sarcasm.
"You really are living the dream," he said. "Your life is so blessed. You've got it all going on over there."
While at first I simply agreed and continued the conversation, I was compelled to return the call a bit later.
"I need to clarify something," I said. "I am indeed blessed. I've got a crazy, wonderful life, and I'm thankful for every moment. But I'm concerned that you're translating the way I consistently speak about my life to a perception that I've got fairies flying around over here cooking and cleaning, and there are $100 bills growing on the lemon tree in the backyard."
The Girl Boss Chronicles: Episode 1
From the nuts and bolts (how do I even form a business?) to the practical (how do I grow an authentic Instagram following?) to the real insanity (how do I care for 3 children and 2 dogs if I'm supposed to spend every waking minute launching a business?), we will debunk the myths, streamline the essentials, and support one another while we laugh our way through.
Feel the Fear. Do It Anyway.
As much as I talk about the power of fearlessness, as much as I admonish everyone to Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, I've realized as of late that there are a few things in life of which we MUST be afraid.
Would you be ready?
Have you ever said, "I'm ready to receive everything that's meant for me. Right now. (I swear.)"
Of course you have. Who hasn't?
Ironically, I thank God some mornings (literally) that I was not given all that I thought I was ready for 5 (or even 2) years ago.
5 years ago, I definitely would have pulled an MC Hammer and squandered it all for one simple (but incredibly powerful) reason.